Feeling lonely

Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. It’s actually a state of mind where the human contact we crave seems out of reach, leaving us feeling empty and disconnected.

The causes and solutions for loneliness can differ from person to person, and when left unaddressed, it can negatively impact our physical and mental health.


Understanding what’s going inside can help us address feelings of loneliness. Focusing on the aspects of our lives that help us feel more connected can also help us cope with and overcome lonely feelings.

It’s important to explore what makes us lonely and what situations intensify those feelings. Sometimes our instinct is to conclude that we’re lonely because we’re unlikable, unappreciated or simply unwanted. Don’t be so hard on yourself and instead look inside. Often, the reality is that we create walls, obstacles or situations that contribute to feeling lonely. So dig deeper. Are there any controllable aspects of your life that are making you feel lonely?

When we’re lonely, it’s easy to succumb to unhelpful blanket statements like, “I’m unlovable.” But if we start examining what’s really going on inside, we’ll make important discoveries about the situations that trigger loneliness. Maybe it’s after spending a lot of time scrolling through social media or hanging out with certain friends. The more you understand about what contributes to your loneliness, the more you can change routines or interactions to help lessen negative feelings.

As you identify what makes you feel more alone, it’s also important to explore the parts of your life that make you feel more connected. Does talking to a certain friend or family member make you feel less lonely? Does taking a group exercise class or volunteering make you feel more like you belong? When we identify the people and things that add value to our lives, we can focus our energies on feeling better.


This episode of Glad You Asked explores what causes loneliness, how it affects our health and what we can do to address it.


If feelings of loneliness lasts an extended period of time, it’s important to reach out for support to prevent further impact on our well-being. Mental health professionals can help us explore the causes of loneliness and ways to overcome it. Explore the resources below or browse the full directory here.

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Resource Type Contact
Crisis Text Line

Have a free, confidential chat with a trained counselor. Available 24/7.

Text Line Text ACTION to 741741

Call for a free, confidential conversation with a trained counselor. Available 24/7.

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Warmline Directory

A Warmline is a free peer-run hotline that offers callers emotional support, staffed by volunteers with lived experiences.

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Inclusive Therapists

Inclusive Therapists offers a safer, simpler way to find a culturally responsive, social justice-oriented therapist.

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ADAA Therapist Search

A tool to help find local mental health services, including teletherapy options.

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A paid online portal that provides access to mental health services, including online counseling, phone, and text communication.

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Outside the U.S.? Find a Helpline

Free emotional support, wherever you are.

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